Let’s Get It On: Redefining Pleasure and Reclaiming Your Sex Life for Gay Men

The "unspoken script" of gay sex often turns intimacy into a high-speed race toward penetration and orgasm. But what happens when we de-center the genitals and focus on the other 95% of our skin? In this post, I share my personal journey of redefining what "counts" as sex, explain the science of your brain's "brakes and accelerators," and provide a body-mapping tool to help you reclaim a pleasure-centered sex life.