Gay sex therapy
for Oregonians.

Oregon's queer communities span a wide range of experiences — from Portland's dense, culturally rich gay neighborhoods to smaller towns where being out can still feel like an act of courage. Whether the city's creative, expressive culture amplifies pressures around identity and performance, or the quiet of rural Oregon makes connection harder to find, the internal work is the same, and it deserves a real space.

My sessions are private, one-on-one, and grounded in evidence-based approaches. We move at your pace. What we work on is entirely shaped by what you bring. Nothing is off-limits, and nothing requires an explanation. You will be accepted as you are.

Oregon's progressive identity can create a particular kind of silence around shame. There's a cultural expectation that openness and acceptance are the norm here — which can make it harder, not easier, to admit that you're still struggling with something that's supposed to be settled. Shame doesn't disappear because your environment became more accepting. It just gets quieter and harder to name.

This work traces those roots carefully — naming the systems that planted them — and replaces shame with something more honest: curiosity, self-compassion, and the actual freedom to live as yourself.

Portland has one of the highest rates of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy of any city in the country. For gay men in Oregon, this creates a social environment where non-monogamy can feel both completely normalized and, paradoxically, pressured. The idea is one thing. The emotional reality — the jealousy, the attachment, the grief, the unexpected complexity — is another.

I work with gay men on the individual experience of navigating these structures: the jealousy, the attachment, the boundaries that aren't holding, the question of what you actually want — separate from what's expected of you. Non-monogamy removes the default script. That takes real work to navigate consciously.

Oregon draws people who are looking for permission to be more fully themselves. For many gay men, moving to Portland or another part of the state is itself an act of coming out — a physical relocation that mirrors an internal one. But the process doesn't end when you arrive somewhere accepting. The internal work — identity, grief, family relationships, the version of yourself you're still becoming — that continues regardless of where you are.

I offer space to work through what coming out means for you specifically: the fear, the relief, the relationships that shift, the version of yourself you're still figuring out. Late-in-life coming out carries its own particular texture — years of a built life, a different kind of grief, a different kind of courage. All of it deserves real attention.

Oregon's gay social scene — particularly in Portland — moves at a pace that can make patterns around sex easy to fall into and hard to examine. That might look like compulsive behavior, constant app use, a sex life that feels hollow despite being active, or avoiding sex entirely without understanding why. The culture's permissiveness can make it harder, not easier, to notice when something has shifted from freedom into something else.

I approach all of it with a sex-positive, non-judgmental, non-pathologizing framework. The goal isn't less sex or more sex — it's a relationship with your sexuality that feels genuinely yours. There's no wrong starting point.