Gay sex therapy
for Californians.
I'm an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in California (LPCC #4340), offering affirming, shame-free sex therapy for gay, bi, queer, trans, and gender diverse men — via secure telehealth, available anywhere in California.
Harry Dixon
LPCC · LMHC · LPC · CST
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
- CA Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor LPCC #4340
- AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
- Telehealth available statewide - LA · SF · SD & All CA
- Free 20-minute consultation
- In-network with Cigna
Built for
queer Californians.
California is home to some of the most established queer communities in the world — from West Hollywood and the Castro to Hillcrest and beyond. And yet access to genuinely affirming, clinically rigorous care for gay men remains harder to find than it should be. Having a large queer community around you doesn't automatically mean having access to a therapist who understands your life without requiring explanation.
Most therapy, even in California, still operates from heteronormative frameworks. The language is clinical, the silences are telling, and the unspoken assumption is that your sexuality is a variable to navigate around rather than a central part of who you are. I built this practice for you.
I'm a gay, Korean American AASECT Certified Sex Therapist licensed in California (LPCC #4340). I hold multiple intersecting identities — queer, Asian American, a person of color — and I bring that lived experience directly into the work. That's not a footnote. It changes what I understand without being told, what I don't need explained, and the range of experiences I can genuinely meet.
California has the largest Asian American population of any state, and a significant portion of AAPI gay men in this state are navigating the intersection of queer identity and cultural, familial, and racial contexts that most therapists have never inhabited. I have. I work entirely via secure telehealth — available anywhere in California, from Los Angeles to the Bay Area to San Diego to Northern California.
Holding more than
one thing at once.
As a gay Korean American clinician, I live at the intersection of multiple marginalized identities. That's not a credential — it's who I am. It shapes how I work with my clients, and what I can hold in a room without asking my clients to pause and explain.
California's AAPI community is the largest in the country. A significant number of AAPI gay men in this state are navigating sexuality and identity inside cultural frameworks — family loyalty, collectivist expectation, intergenerational silence around sex — that mainstream gay culture and mainstream therapy both routinely miss. I don't miss them, I include them.
The model minority myth & sexuality
Being expected to succeed quietly, cause no disruption, and make your family proud can make it feel impossible to also be visibly, unapologetically queer. The pressure to perform competence in every other area of your life while hiding this one is exhausting in a very specific way.
Filial piety & coming out
In many Asian cultures, the obligation to family — to not bring shame, to honor your parents' sacrifices, to remain legible to your community — can make coming out feel like a betrayal of something deeply held. That isn't irrational. It deserves to be taken seriously, not explained away.
Race & sexuality in gay spaces
Gay spaces are not automatically safe or affirming for men of color. Racial fetishization, desexualization, and the specific ways that white gay culture centers itself all shape how AAPI gay men experience their own desirability, belonging, and sexual identity — often in ways that are hard to name because they're so pervasive.
Code-switching & the cost of translation
Moving between communities — the family you come from, the gay spaces you inhabit, the professional world you navigate — while being fully legible in none of them takes a toll that accumulates quietly. Therapy should be a place where you don't have to translate yourself. That's what I'm here to offer.
Areas of focus
for California clients.
All sessions are delivered via secure telehealth. I'm licensed in California (LPCC #4340) and available to anyone located in the State. You don't need to be in a particular city — if you're in California, we can work together.
Individual Sex Therapy for Gay & Queer Men in California
This work is for you if: you want to explore your sexuality, address shame or past experiences, work through a specific concern, or simply have a space where nothing needs to be explained or justified.
California's gay communities — particularly in Los Angeles, San Francisco, and San Diego — carry their own distinct cultures, pressures, and social dynamics. The performance of sexual confidence in LA, the political weight of identity in the Bay Area, the tight-knit community feel of Hillcrest — each shapes how gay men experience their own sexuality in ways that are specific and real. Therapy that doesn't account for that context is missing something.
My sessions are private, one-on-one, and grounded in evidenced based and affirming approaches. We work on what you bring, at the pace you set. You can exist in this space just as you are
Sexual Shame & Internalized Homophobia
This work is for you if: you're carrying messages about who you should be — from religion, family, culture, or years of absorbing what the world said about gay men — and those messages are shaping how you live and love.
For AAPI gay men in California, sexual shame often operates at multiple layers simultaneously: the general shame that many gay men carry from growing up in a homophobic culture, and a deeper layer rooted in family loyalty, intergenerational silence around sex, and the sense that being visibly queer is a failure of duty. These aren't the same thing, and they don't respond to the same work.
Having a clinician who has personally navigated the intersection of Asian American identity and queer sexuality changes what can be said in a session without preamble. I don't need the background explained. I know what it means to carry shame from two directions at once — from the mainstream culture and from within the communities that were supposed to be home. This work traces those roots carefully and replaces shame, layer by layer, with something more honest.
Navigating Open Relationships & Polyamory
This work is for you if: you're exploring non-monogamy for the first time, navigating a structure that's stirring up unexpected feelings, or trying to understand what you actually want from relationships that don't follow a conventional script.
California — particularly in Los Angeles and the Bay Area — has one of the most established cultures of ethical non-monogamy in the country. That visibility is real and valuable. It also creates social pressure: the feeling that you should have this figured out, that everyone else has a handle on the jealousy and the logistics, that struggling with it means something is wrong with you rather than with the fact that this is genuinely complex.
I work with gay men on the individual experience of navigating these structures — the unexpected feelings, the agreements that aren't holding, the question of whether you actually want this — separate from what the community around you has normalized. Non-monogamy removes the default script. Building something intentional in its place takes real work.
Coming Out Support — At Any Stage
This work is for you if: you're coming out for the first time, re-coming out to someone new, or navigating a late-in-life disclosure after years of living a different story.
Coming out within Asian American and other collectivist family cultures carries weight that mainstream coming out narratives don't fully account for. It isn't just about your parents accepting you — it's about your place in a family system, a community, and sometimes a cultural identity that may feel fundamentally incompatible with being gay. The grief of that incompatibility is real, and it deserves more than reassurance.
I offer space to work through what coming out means for you specifically — the fear, the relief, the relationships that shift, and the version of yourself you're still figuring out. For men navigating this within AAPI or other immigrant family contexts, that often means working through the tension between individual authenticity and collective belonging without being told that one has to win. That tension is the work. And it's worth doing carefully.
Sexual Wellness & Compulsivity
This work is for you if: your relationship with sex has become complicated, compulsive, avoidant, or just far from what you want it to be — and you want to work through that without judgment.
California's gay social landscape — especially in Los Angeles and San Francisco — moves fast, and patterns around apps, hook-ups, and sex can develop in ways that are hard to name until they've been going on for a while. That might look like behavior that feels compulsive, a sex life that feels hollow despite being active, or a long stretch of avoidance without a clear reason.
I approach all of it with a sex-positive, non-judgmental, non-pathologizing framework. The goal isn't to police your behavior — it's to understand it and help you build a relationship with your own sexuality that feels genuinely integrated and free. There's no wrong starting point.
Based in California?
Let's talk.
Free 20-minute consult · No commitment · Telehealth anywhere in California
Questions about
California telehealth.
Are you licensed to practice in California?
Yes. I'm a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in California (LPCC #4340). You need to be physically located in California at the time of each session — that's the only geographic requirement. You can be anywhere in the state.
Do you offer in-person sessions in Los Angeles, San Francisco, or San Diego?
No — my practice is telehealth-only. All sessions are conducted via secure, HIPAA-compliant video. That means you can access care from wherever you are in California: Los Angeles, West Hollywood, the Bay Area, San Diego, Sacramento, the Inland Empire, or anywhere else in the state.
Does telehealth actually work for sex therapy?
Yes. For many people it works better — it removes the friction of commuting in a city like LA or SF, and lets you be in a space where you're genuinely comfortable. The quality of the work depends on the therapeutic relationship and what you bring, not on being physically in the same room.
Do you accept insurance in California?
I'm in-network with Cigna. For all other plans, I'm an out-of-network provider and provide superbills for reimbursement. It's worth checking your out-of-network mental health benefits — many California plans provide meaningful reimbursement.
What makes this different from other gay-affirming therapists in California?
A few things. I'm an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist — sex is a specific clinical focus, not something most therapists quietly avoid or handle vaguely. I'm also gay and Korean American, which means I bring both personal and cultural understanding of queer life without requiring translation. And I work without a heteronormative framework, which changes how sessions actually feel.
I'm not sure what I'd even talk about. Is that okay?
Yes. The first session is a conversation — where you are, what's brought you here, what you're hoping for. You don't need an agenda or a clear diagnosis of the problem. Sometimes the work starts from sensing that something could be different without being able to name it yet. That's enough.
Do you specifically work with Asian American and BIPOC gay men?
Yes, and this is an area of both personal and clinical focus. As a gay Korean American therapist, I bring lived experience of navigating queer identity within an Asian American family and cultural context. I work with AAPI and BIPOC gay men on the specific pressures that come with holding multiple marginalized identities — the model minority myth, filial piety and family obligation, racial dynamics within gay spaces, and the exhaustion of code-switching between communities that each only partially see you. You don't need to explain any of that before we can start.
Do you also work with gay couples in California?
Yes — couples and partners therapy is available for California-based clients. Both partners need to be located in a state I'm licensed in at the time of the session, but they don't need to be in the same location as each other. See the couples therapy page for more on what that work involves.
How do I get started?
Use the contact form below or the button on this page to reach out. I offer a free 20-minute consultation — no commitment, no paperwork, just a real conversation to see if we're a good fit. My intake coordinator will be in touch within one to two business days.
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