Gay sex therapy
for New Yorkers.
I'm an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor in New York (LMHC #015648), offering affirming, shame-free sex therapy for gay, bi, queer, trans, and gender diverse men — online via secure telehealth, available anywhere in New York State.
Built for
queer New Yorkers.
New York has one of the largest, most visible queer communities in the world. But visibility doesn't equal access to care that actually understands your life.
Most therapy in New York was built for someone else. The frameworks are heteronormative. The language is clinical. The unspoken assumption is that your sexuality is a variable to work around, not a central part of who you are. I built this practice for the queer community.
As a gay, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I bring both lived experience and specialized clinical training to every session. I'm licensed in New York as a Mental Health Counselor and I work via secure telehealth — which means you can access affirming care from anywhere in the State, including Manhattan, Brooklyn, Queens, and the Bronx.
The pressure of a city
that never stops.
New York rewards ambition, speed, and polish — and a lot of gay men here bring that same standard into their sex lives and relationships. Sex becomes one more place to perform, optimize, and not fall behind.
Underneath the momentum, the same things come up again and again: exhaustion, loneliness in a crowded city, and a quiet sense that intimacy keeps slipping out of reach. Those aren't personal failings. They're what happens when your nervous system never gets to stand down.
Sex as another performance
When your career, your body, and your social life all feel like they're being evaluated, it makes sense that sex starts to feel like a test too. That's often where performance anxiety, erectile concerns, and trouble staying present begin.
Endless options, little connection
Living somewhere with more potential partners than you could ever meet can make every connection feel replaceable. The apps promise abundance; what many men actually feel is scarcity — of attention, of follow-through, of being known.
Party culture, Fire Island & chems
Summers on Fire Island, circuit weekends, and chemsex can be joyful and freeing — and for some people, hard to step back from. We can look at your relationship with partying honestly and without judgment: what it gives you, what it costs, and what you want.
Privacy in a shared apartment
Small apartments, roommates, and thin walls can make telehealth feel impossible. It isn't. A closed door with headphones, a booked meeting room, a quiet corner — we'll figure out what gives you real privacy for sessions.
Areas of focus
for New York clients.
All sessions are delivered via secure telehealth. I'm licensed in New York (LMHC #015648) and available to anyone located in New York State.
Individual Sex Therapy for Gay & Queer Men in New York
This work is for you if: you want to explore your sexuality, address shame or past experiences, work through a specific concern, or simply have a space where nothing needs to be explained or justified.
New York can be a disorienting place to be a gay man — loud and visible in some ways, isolating and pressure-filled in others. The city's pace, its culture of performance, and the specific social dynamics of gay New York can layer on top of whatever you're carrying into the room. I get it, I'm here to help.
My sessions are private, one-on-one, and grounded in evidence based approaches. We move at your pace. What we work on is entirely shaped by what you bring. Nothing is off-limits, and nothing requires an explanation. You will be accepted as you are.
Sexual Shame & Internalized Homophobia
This work is for you if: you're carrying the weight of messages about who you should be — from religion, family, culture, or a lifetime of absorbing what the world said about gay men — and it's shaping how you live and love.
Sexual shame is pervasive among gay men, and it doesn't disappear just because you moved to a queer-friendly city. In New York it often gets buried under activity, community, and the performance of confidence — surfacing in moments of intimacy, in patterns with partners, or as a quiet chronic hum that makes real closeness feel just out of reach.
This work traces those roots carefully — naming the systems that planted them — and replaces shame with something more honest: curiosity, self-compassion, and the actual freedom to live as yourself.
Navigating Open Relationships & Polyamory
This work is for you if: you're exploring non-monogamy for the first time, navigating a structure that's stirring up unexpected feelings, or trying to understand what you actually want from relationships that don't follow a conventional script.
New York's gay community has its own particular relationship culture — non-monogamy is widespread and often assumed, which creates its own pressures. Some gay men in the city feel like they should want an open relationship, or like something is wrong with them if they don't. Others are genuinely open and finding the reality more complicated than the idea.
I work with gay men on the individual experience of navigating these structures: the jealousy, the attachment, the boundaries that aren't holding, the question of what you actually want — separate from what's expected of you. Non-monogamy removes the default script. That takes real work to navigate consciously.
Coming Out Support — At Any Stage
This work is for you if: you're coming out for the first time, re-coming out to someone new, or navigating a late-in-life disclosure after years of living a different story.
New York draws people who are starting over, reinventing themselves, or finally living as who they actually are. Coming out in New York can feel like arriving somewhere you've always belonged — and it can also bring up grief, complexity, and loss that the city's pace doesn't always give you space to process.
I offer space to work through what coming out means for you specifically: the fear, the relief, the relationships that shift, the version of yourself you're still figuring out. Late-in-life coming out carries its own particular texture — years of a built life, a different kind of grief, a different kind of courage. All of it deserves real attention.
Sexual Wellness & Compulsivity
This work is for you if: your relationship with sex has become complicated, compulsive, avoidant, or just far from what you want it to be — and you want to work through that without judgment or pathologizing.
New York's gay social scene — the apps, the bars, the hooks-ups, the culture of constant availability — can make it easy for patterns around sex to develop that feel hard to name and harder to change. That might look like compulsive behavior, constant scrolling, a sex life that feels empty despite being active, or avoiding sex entirely without understanding why.
I approach all of it with a sex-positive, non-judgmental, non-pathologizing framework. The goal isn't less sex or more sex — it's a relationship with your sexuality that feels genuinely yours. There's no wrong starting point.
Based in New York?
Let's talk.
Free 15-minute consult · No commitment · Telehealth anywhere in New York State
Questions about
New York telehealth.
Are you licensed to practice in New York?
Do you offer in-person sessions in New York City?
Does telehealth actually work for sex therapy?
Do you accept insurance in New York?
What's the difference between you and other gay-friendly therapists in New York?
I'm not sure what I'd even talk about. Is that okay?
Do you also work with gay couples in New York?
I split my time between New York and another state. Can we still work together?
How do I get started?
Let's connect.
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