Gay sex therapy
for New Yorkers.

New York can be a disorienting place to be a gay man — loud and visible in some ways, isolating and pressure-filled in others. The city's pace, its culture of performance, and the specific social dynamics of gay New York can layer on top of whatever you're carrying into the room. I get it, I'm here to help.

My sessions are private, one-on-one, and grounded in evidence based approaches. We move at your pace. What we work on is entirely shaped by what you bring. Nothing is off-limits, and nothing requires an explanation. You will be accepted as you are.

Sexual shame is pervasive among gay men, and it doesn't disappear just because you moved to a queer-friendly city. In New York it often gets buried under activity, community, and the performance of confidence — surfacing in moments of intimacy, in patterns with partners, or as a quiet chronic hum that makes real closeness feel just out of reach.

This work traces those roots carefully — naming the systems that planted them — and replaces shame with something more honest: curiosity, self-compassion, and the actual freedom to live as yourself.

New York's gay community has its own particular relationship culture — non-monogamy is widespread and often assumed, which creates its own pressures. Some gay men in the city feel like they should want an open relationship, or like something is wrong with them if they don't. Others are genuinely open and finding the reality more complicated than the idea.

I work with gay men on the individual experience of navigating these structures: the jealousy, the attachment, the boundaries that aren't holding, the question of what you actually want — separate from what's expected of you. Non-monogamy removes the default script. That takes real work to navigate consciously.

New York draws people who are starting over, reinventing themselves, or finally living as who they actually are. Coming out in New York can feel like arriving somewhere you've always belonged — and it can also bring up grief, complexity, and loss that the city's pace doesn't always give you space to process.

I offer space to work through what coming out means for you specifically: the fear, the relief, the relationships that shift, the version of yourself you're still figuring out. Late-in-life coming out carries its own particular texture — years of a built life, a different kind of grief, a different kind of courage. All of it deserves real attention.

New York's gay social scene — the apps, the bars, the hooks-ups, the culture of constant availability — can make it easy for patterns around sex to develop that feel hard to name and harder to change. That might look like compulsive behavior, constant scrolling, a sex life that feels empty despite being active, or avoiding sex entirely without understanding why.

I approach all of it with a sex-positive, non-judgmental, non-pathologizing framework. The goal isn't less sex or more sex — it's a relationship with your sexuality that feels genuinely yours. There's no wrong starting point.