Gay sex therapy
for Washingtonians.

Washington's queer communities — from the density and dynamism of Seattle's Capitol Hill to the quieter isolation of rural areas — create very different but equally real challenges for gay men. Whether the pressure is the city's intense tech-and-performance culture or the loneliness of being one of the only out men for miles, the internal work is the same, and it deserves real attention.

My sessions are private, one-on-one, and grounded in evidence-based approaches. We move at your pace. What we work on is entirely shaped by what you bring. Nothing is off-limits, and nothing requires an explanation. You will be accepted as you are.

Living in a progressive state doesn't dissolve the shame that was planted before you arrived here. For many gay men in Washington, the mismatch between the external environment — accepting, politically affirming — and their internal experience — still shaped by religious upbringing, family messages, or years of self-suppression — creates a confusing kind of suffering that's hard to name.

This work traces those roots carefully — naming the systems that planted them — and replaces shame with something more honest: curiosity, self-compassion, and the actual freedom to live as yourself.

Washington's progressive culture has made non-monogamy and polyamory increasingly visible and normalized — which creates its own distinct pressure. Some gay men feel like they should want an open relationship, or like opting out makes them somehow less evolved. Others are genuinely open and discovering the emotional reality is far more demanding than the concept.

I work with gay men on the individual experience of navigating these structures: the jealousy, the attachment, the boundaries that aren't holding, the question of what you actually want — separate from what's expected of you. Non-monogamy removes the default script. That takes real work to navigate consciously.

Coming out in Washington can look very different depending on where you are. In Seattle's Capitol Hill it might feel like stepping into a community that's been waiting for you. In eastern Washington or smaller towns across the state, it might mean real risk, real loss, and very little visible community to land in. Both experiences are valid, and both deserve thoughtful support.

I offer space to work through what coming out means for you specifically: the fear, the relief, the relationships that shift, the version of yourself you're still figuring out. Late-in-life coming out carries its own particular texture — years of a built life, a different kind of grief, a different kind of courage. All of it deserves real attention.

The combination of app culture, Seattle's tech-connected lifestyle, and the visibility of the gay scene in Washington can make it easy for patterns around sex to develop that feel hard to name and harder to change. That might look like compulsive behavior, constant scrolling, a sex life that feels empty despite being active, or avoiding sex entirely without understanding why.

I approach all of it with a sex-positive, non-judgmental, non-pathologizing framework. The goal isn't less sex or more sex — it's a relationship with your sexuality that feels genuinely yours. There's no wrong starting point.